1. Know That Human Beings Are Extremely Bad At Forecasting Happiness
When you are bursting to buy that shiny, new car, know that the happy high you’re experiencing is a fleeting one. In fact, Dobelli says that jubilant sensation you get from a big, material purchase will only last for up to six months, so buy wisely. “Be very careful,” Dobelli warns, “generally, things do not make us happy, experiences, tasks, challenges and projects do.” In other words, try to rid the desire for instant gratification - some things are worth the wait.
2. Remove The Notion That ‘Life Is A Dance’
“If you live like there’s no tomorrow, you’ll be in jail five minutes later,” Dobelli laughs. The author says it’s important to plan — doing the hard thing now will make life easier in the long run. “Forget that carpe diem thing,” he suggests, and realize that life takes effort, planning and forethought to be excellent. Don’t let this tip get you down, spontaneity lovers — the chapter this ideology comes from is titled “Live Each Day as If It Were Your Last — but Only on Sundays.” There’s room to let your plans fall by the wayside: Doing so may seem like an oxymoron, but you’re best scheduling unplanned days for once a week.
3. Stop Following The Herd
We’re hard-wired to copy our peers; it’s a habit we developed thousands of years ago when, if you saw your fellow caveman running from a sabertooth-tiger, it was wise to play copycat. In modern times, however, Dobelli says we benefit from straying from the pack: The action forces us to be more confident in our own decision-making. “Following the herd is very dangerous,” Dobelli says. “The more we observe other people displaying a behavior, the more we think that behavior is right — and that’s absurd.” Trusting your gut, and removing the influence of other’s from what you decide is right, will get easier over time — you just have to keep at it.
4. Limit Your News Consumption
Dobelli is an advocate of unplugging: He says rather than keep an eye on a steadfast Twitter feed, it’s more productive to read books and long-form articles that will educate you on the bigger picture. The specific details that come from breaking news, like how long a storm lasted, are “not relevant to your life,” the author says. Instead, invest your time learning about definitive concepts and events. Think you’ll be accused of living under a rock? “I’ve never missed a beat,” says the author. You’ll hear about the news from your peers, he assures, but will still be in control of curating the way you consume it. Removing yourself from the clutter of the details will leave room for what really matters — and what’s worth spending your brain power on.
5. Don’t Get Overly Caught Up In The ‘Present Moment’
“Be in the moment” has become a pervasive mantra of those who subscribe to healthy and mindful living. But being present encapsulates both what you can and cannot see, Dobelli explains, and the latter is the part most people forget about. “We tend to be overly enthralled by the things that are here, and we don’t have a sensor for the stuff that is missing,” he says. Don’t pigeonhole your day; instead, be cognizant that while things are happening before your eyes, things are also happening beyond them. It’s a vague philosophy, but reminding yourself to be less egocentric can help remove the wasteful thoughts that come with being too ”now”-minded.
This blog is honestly very awesome!
For the past 2 years I have worked on a bucket list of my own. However at the time I was in college and have recently graduated. 3 of my friends and myself will be traveling to El Salvador to start a blog and help teach English. I was becoming a bit unsure about joining the project but after checking out the Buried Life I have no doubt that I will be go to El Salvador!
-amazing! you’ll get there. -the boys
dunc playing some volleyball with the @first_descents team
Bill Murray on Gilda Radner:
“Gilda got married and went away. None of us saw her anymore. There was one good thing: Laraine had a party one night, a great party at her house. And I ended up being the disk jockey. She just had forty-fives, and not that many, so you really had to work the music end of it. There was a collection of like the funniest people in the world at this party. Somehow Sam Kinison sticks in my brain. The whole Monty Python group was there, most of us from the show, a lot of other funny people, and Gilda. Gilda showed up and she’d already had cancer and gone into remission and then had it again, I guess. Anyway she was slim. We hadn’t seen her in a long time. And she started doing, “I’ve got to go,” and she was just going to leave, and I was like, “Going to leave?” It felt like she was going to really leave forever.
So we started carrying her around, in a way that we could only do with her. We carried her up and down the stairs, around the house, repeatedly, for a long time, until I was exhausted. Then Danny did it for a while. Then I did it again. We just kept carrying her; we did it in teams. We kept carrying her around, but like upside down, every which way—over your shoulder and under your arm, carrying her like luggage. And that went on for more than an hour—maybe an hour and a half—just carrying her around and saying, “She’s leaving! This could be it! Now come on, this could be the last time we see her. Gilda’s leaving, and remember that she was very sick—hello?”
We worked all aspects of it, but it started with just, “She’s leaving, I don’t know if you’ve said good-bye to her.” And we said good-bye to the same people ten, twenty times, you know.
And because these people were really funny, every person we’d drag her up to would just do like five minutes on her, with Gilda upside down in this sort of tortured position, which she absolutely loved. She was laughing so hard we could have lost her right then and there.
It was just one of the best parties I’ve ever been to in my life. I’ll always remember it. It was the last time I saw her.”
A young cancer fighter taking in the scenery on the surf in Costa Rica with @first_descents. Show us your best #OutLivingIt pic + we’ll post our fav.